You’re probably a bit worried where I’m going with this but maybe it’s the same rule with your peach puff. Unless it’s really handsome with a baby face you’re better off leaving the hair on. Hmm, well put like that perhaps not, but does the skinhead theory hold any water?
In the wax-on/wax-off argument I’ve heard it said that with no hair it looks like a little girl. I’ll be honest: I haven’t seen a little girl’s twinklepie for a while so I can’t verify this, but I’m fairly certain, from the corporeal overhaul that is puberty and the sounding it can take through intercourse, that a woman’s viennoiserie looks quite different to an infant’s little dimple, hirsute or otherwise.
Besides, surely between the womanly shape (as in; if she is a woman whatever shape she is is womanly – before you jump down my throat) and the general context of you thrashing around, sweating and quoting the Tempest to her, surely none of this should put you in mind of children, unless you’re really forward thinking.
There are plenty of reasons not to shave or wax your hot slot, though – your man being a potential nonce being just one. Just as men’s facial hair can make them look like an invading viking or a teenage tramp, women have a whole range of set-ups under their laptops.
Your (potential) bush is a pheromone rug which traps the scents that will bring your man or woman to his or her knees (literally) when your body tells them you want them. Do you want to deny yourself this little silent chat up line? I know smell seems to be a bad word for most, but personally it’s my olfactory senses that cement my old brick more than the visuals (another article perhaps?).
‘Tidy’, ‘neat’, these are things that I’ve heard many women describe how they’d like to be seen. Great, some women work that look very well. Desperate Housewives and Mad Men have plenty of these steely types. If that’s you or your thing, go for it.
Removal of the hair seems to be with a view to making the area neat and tidy but what about the actual summer pudding itself? What if that’s not neat? What if it looks like a salt beef deli special or a half eaten kebab? Funny how those sound like insults but they’re both things that men enjoy eating.
Why don’t we hear the proud cries of the guys who love to leave a fanny looking like a toddler punched a hole in a baked ham? The truth is I don’t know if I hear that many guys go on about liking a nice trim pink slim either. I think women’s fears are played on more often than not, and many choose what seems like the safest option.
The popularisation of the bald conch correlates with the increased access and volume of pornography as some smartiepants have noted over the years. The theory being that it affords a clearer view for the camera, and ultimately the pink-faced viewers. But the majority of women are not porn stars, despite confusing stats from my studies of bumper stickers. Does every woman want every millimetre of their mini-me visible for scrutiny anyway? Proud (as you should be) or not, there’s no crime in a casual thought about presentation of your parcel.
We haven’t ever been able to choose who likes us and what they like about us and nor should we. If you want to look like you have the Bee Gees in head- and thigh-locks then go for it. And yes of course a certain percentile of people may not have sex with you due to that. Congratulations, you just saved yourself the time and hassle of finding out later down the line that they’re not your style. How many people can you shag at once anyway?
I love variety myself, I love seeing how hairy it can get and, if she fancies a change, I’m also tickled to see how it looks all kempt like. Whatever condition makes her comfortable enough with it for me to do whatever unspeakable acts I’m plotting is A OK with me.
Well I hope my rantle (has anyone coined that portmanteau yet?) has irked the same people who attacked my previous musings for not being some sort of agenda-driven manifesto last time I posted. I’m a man. What do I know about this stuff? Tear me to shreds. I can take it. Sniff.
I love a debate so I have no intention of wrapping this article up so I won’t end on that. Here’s another question. Considering that a man has to have a scrag of butcher’s off-cut dangling between his legs, does what you look like down there matter all that much anyway?
Nicely put. Your olfactory observation particularly resonates with me because, without wishing to make a comment in bad taste, I’ve always found that an absence of hair reduces the flavour down there. It all feels a bit clinical too.
I don’t think shaving works too well on blokes either, for that matter. I’ve tried it twice myself (whilst drunk, natch – not a terribly good idea, incidentally) and it looks weird: ludicrous when relaxed and frankly comic when attentive (but perhaps that’s just my perspective). More, the itching is unbearable. No aesthetic effect can be worth that.
I overenthusiastically shaved myself down there for my vasectomy and the agony of regrowth made the surgery seem trivial
Never again! I’ve always been fascinated with the variety of vulval anatomy and don’t particularly like getting hairs trapped in my teeth so I think trimming is the best compromise…
There’s a deadly article on this subject here
That was really interesting and rather incisive. Thanks.
That was a really interesting article, thanks for posting it.
I’m sorry I’ve read it twice and it’s self contradictory tosh. I have a suspicion the author was just playing with words, seeing what ridiculous constructs he could foist on his readers. His conclusion states that he doesn’t know what he means himself
agree with Julian – absolute credit to you for talking about smell and taste. kudos.
I get the impression that so much hair removal, like other beauty practices, is more about female anxiety about not meeting standards than about human aesthetics.
I also get the impression that, weirdly, these standards actually come about because pubic hair was/is seen as intensely erotic, hence not seeing it in art and being aware of its absence in lingerie adverts, etc.
I didn’t think about hair removal there til a boyfriend politely asked if I could maybe shave it a little & I was mortified! I’ve since discovered shaving is definitely a bad idea! & waxing is expensive – if you go to a cheap waxer who uses strips instead of that bubblegum sorta stuff (< -the best, if you choose to) you can get terrible ingrown hairs that are much worse than any amount of hair!
it feels like I’m treating myself – is that weird?
I’ve had the all-off look & yeah, it did feel very little-girly & I was a bit awkward with the boyfriend/s (have tried it with 2 different guys) I liked it best when a little soft hair had grown back, in the front.
The place I’m most horrifically awkward about having hair is when dark hairs grow on my inner thighs – I hate it so much!! but it’s also a bad place to shave, I have sensitive skin. So I let it grow in winter & in summer/in a relationship I alternate between careful shaving & waxing when I have the money.
I don’t mind having hair ’round my girl-bits, I’ve decided I prefer it to complete ‘baldness’, buuut I do like getting a Brazilian (UK: “Hollywood”, as I discovered when I was over there) wax a few times a year & asking to leave a little hair at the front
All hail the hair! I alternate between trimming the hedge and letting it grow free. No plucked chicken look for me. Of course when it comes up in conversation, people tend to edge away from me in a panic…