She continues: ‘Of course, I respect anyone’s decisions and beliefs about sex; in fact, I personally still want to wait until marriage (but for personal reasons rather than ‘anyone who doesn’t is a sinner’ reasons). I am even glad in a way that I was able to know that not having sex was an acceptable option from the beginning. But what I am not ok with is presenting it as the ONLY ‘right’ option, and in an advice leaflet that pretends to be factual, objective and positive! It makes me really angry that something so one-sided and shaming was thought of as ok for a GP to give to impressionable young girls. It’s taken me a long time to break free from the prescriptive ideology and morals my parents instilled in me (and they weren’t even particularly pushy), to realise that it’s ok to have my own thoughts and opinions and make my own decisions. What teenagers need is to be given is a) objective facts, b) the awareness that there are a lot of different opinions surrounding issues like this and c) the knowledge that you are free to make up your own mind. Instead, the fact that leaflets like these are produced and given to teenage girls (or were being 6ish years ago) really worries me. And not only is it pushing the idea of no sex before marriage (and presenting statistics in a very biased way to ‘prove’ that premarital sex is a bad idea), but also reinforcing misogynistic crap like sex being about your partner’s enjoyment and women who get pregnant (or even have sex) as a teenager being shameful and having nothing ‘to offer a fella’.